20 Mar No Regrets
As you’ve might have noticed, it’s been a while since I’ve actually written something…apart from the fashion posts, which I love doing, I’ve always been more than just a fashion blogger. The truth is that despite me encouraging you guys to always do the more difficult things, I’ve been taking the easy way out lately. Creating beautiful, but shallow fashion posts is easier, compared to confronting myself with deeper thoughts and opening up about them.
The past months haven’t been easy, as I’ve been finding my way around dealing with loss and heartbreak. With the passing of my grandmother, despite the grief, a lot has been put into perspective for me. With her being the Iron Lady in the family, I recognise where I get my strength from, for which I’m forever grateful.
One of the things I’ve decided is that though I’m not quite ready to kick the bucket, whenever it may be my time, I don’t want to have any regrets. I want to be able to have lived my life the way I see fit, not based on what others think it should look like. I want to have experienced life and all that it entails – love, happiness, passion, beauty, success, etc. – within my own terms. I refuse to let society decide on the so called ”right” way to live. So many people around me are unhappy, because they let the opinion of others or society (the status quo) dictate their lives, and they’re not honest with themselves. They follow the so called rules of how to live a good life, and then find themselves unhappy, not knowing why, because they never stood still to think what actually makes them truly happy.
I want to be able to say, without a shadow of a doubt that I gave it all of me. I want my loved ones to celebrate, knowing that I left having used every ounce of talent in my veins.
Some may find it strange that I’m writing about death so freely, but honestly…what’s more natural? Death is the one and only promise every single person on the Earth is given the day that they’re born – the promise that one day, their life will come to an end. The only thing scary about Death is not having used the time we do have to live to its full potential.
I imagine myself leaving with gratitude…Gratitude for being able to push through my fears and take massive action. Gratitude for being able to set an example for those around me. Gratitude for not letting excuses hold me back. Gratitude for living life on my terms.
I honestly don’t care about the color of my coffin, the kind of flowers or the design of my funeral program. Seriously. I’m probably not going to see it. I do care about the memories left in the hearts of those I’ve touched. The influence felt years after I’m gone. The legacy left.
So that being said…I’m wondering…
What is it that you plan to leave behind that’s bigger than you? How do you feel about your legacy being built and where it currently stands? If you were to drop today, will you be satisfied with the impact you’ve made?
If you aren’t quite feeling the path you’re on, I challenge you to take another. Don’t wait until it’s too late and live in regret. Tomorrow isn’t promised and there’s never a better time to act on your dreams than right now. Even the smallest step is a step in the right direction.
I tend to approach goal chasing from a death-bed perspective. I ask myself, “If today was your last day on Earth, would you have regretted not going for it?” If the answer is yes, then I pursue that goal with all of me. I want zero regrets.
Life is for the living and if you aren’t living it by your terms, you’re already dead.
P.S. I know it’s deep, but feel free to share your thoughts on this with me <3