The Past, The Now, The Future
As Fall arrives in the Netherlands and it’s getting colder, I’m reflecting on our summer. For me and my partner it was a working summer mostly. Despite the fact that we live in a recreation area, by a big beautiful lake and we have a lovely boat, we didn’t even make one boattrip on the lake during the whole summer, which I do regret, to be honest.
At the same time, when I reflect on the growth and progress we’ve made with Wulterkens, I know it was worth it. Building an empire, requires lots of time, work, sacrifices, blood, sweat, tears.
It’s easy to get carried away in your future plans. Basically all we do every day is planting different seeds and watering them in the hope they will sprout in the (near) future. This is a must if you want to live a life on another level, however, constantly focusing on the future might make you miss the Now. The Now is just as important as the future, because it’s the only thing you have with 100% certainty. The future is not certain, you never know if you get another tomorrow.
So as I am writing this, it’s also a reminder to myself to enjoy the Now more. Luckily I am a person who enjoys the little things, and I am grateful for everything in my life now, even if I am not yet where I want to be in life. I know every day I am one step closer, but only because I am healthy Now and constantly developing my skills, intelligence, knowledge, resources etc.
One positive thing in my case is that I do what I love, so I am enjoying my work everyday, but in chaos of the work I sometimes forget to for instance, plan some free time for myself, to be social (with the very few people still around), to plan a date night with my partner etc etc. And just like the summer flew by, the weeks fly by, and life flies by and I don’t want to regret things in life.
So I guess the key word is Balance, finding balance in life to be able to work hard and efficient towards the Future, yet still be able to enjoy the now to the fullest. Still working on this, though, it’s not as easy as it sounds.
As for the past. The past is not something to dwell on yet is full of wise lessons that we can use to make a better Now and a better Future.
If I think back to 5 years ago, I was a student at the Technical University in Eindhoven, living in a small ”box” (student dorm, in the form of a box of 18 m2) on the university campus. I was studying Innovation Sciences, which I didn’t enjoy at all, but I was smart enough so I thought, ok let’s just get through these few years and then we will see. I didn’t have my driver’s license, I wasn’t exercising, eating a lot of unhealthy stuff, not in shape, no work, lots of sleeping, watching tv series, lots of ”empty’ friendships, basically living a typical student life. I had just met my partner, who at the time was managing an Italian restaurant for his friend in a very boring little town, he had a boat, but no car and no driver’s license. We were both not happy with the situations we were in.
Eventually, I decided to stop with Innovation Sciences, because it just wasn’t what I wanted to do and I took half a year off, got myself together, moved to the Hague (and then to Utrecht) and signed up for International Business Administration at Erasmus University in Rotterdam. I got my driver’s license, which gave me so much more freedom. My partner decided to make changes as well, he started his own company/website selling funny, but handy gadgets, he bought a car, also got his driver’s license. This all happened within a year, maybe a year and a half. We both used to live in big buildings that were empty. In the Netherlands we call it ”anti-kraak”, which is basically to prevent people from claiming the buildings. There used to be a Dutch law that stated that if a building was empty for more than 6 months, anyone can claim it and live in it. So to prevent that, they let people (like me and my partner) live in the buildings (for very low rent) and watch over them.
It was a really cool phase in our lives, it was adventurous and in one of the buildings my bedroom only used to be like 100m2, which was very luxurious, but also a pain in the ass to clean.
Two years later, and during the last year of my Bachelor IBA, my partner and I decided to start our own clothing line together (I skipped a few less important parts, because otherwise this post will be way too long). This lead to me having to do an extra year of my Bachelor, because it’s simply not possible to start your own business AND do a full time university study at the same time. We started with some crazy t-shirt designs in 2012, which we launched on a beautiful catwalk with 9 male models in the middle of Amsterdam City Center during the Amsterdam Fashion Week in July 2012, and the rest is history. We also moved into a ”normal” house where we live now for 1,5 years already, with a gorgeous lake view.
So now in 2014, when I think back to our lives and that moment when both my partner and I weren’t happy with the way our life was going, but we didn’t have any idea what we wanted to do; and to see where we are Now, in the Wulterkens Office, with a beautiful showroom, It’s just amazing what can happen in 4-5 years. I could never have thought that I would be having my own fashion brand, let a lone in sportswear, while I was developing a particle accelerator for particles with a certain density (yes I used to be a big nerd). Let alone a bachelor degree in International Business, being highly active in Fitness, and doing a part-time Master study in Marketing.
I am so excited, when I think of where we will be in the next 4-5 years. When the seeds we are planting now will be trees, growing taller and taller. Anything can be done. You just have to be brave to make certain decisions and take steps towards changing your life, even if they are small steps at a time. Eventually all things will fall into place and you just have to follow your path to live your dream.
I am so lucky and grateful to have met my partner. I don’t believe in coincidence, I truly believe we are meant to be, and Wulterkens, as a brand, is meant to be. From the beginning we supported each other, we literally inspired each other and lifted each other up to become more, to become better, to grow. Without him, I wouldn’t be co-owner of Wulterkens and without me I’m not sure he would have taken the steps to create ”Wulterkens”, which is his last name, as a brand.
I will be doing another reflection in 2016 and 2018, I think it will be nice to look back again to today. There is so much that can happen in 2 years. Life is constant growth, and constant change; it’s up to you to steer it in the direction you want to grow/change in. Make the most out of the now, make every day, every hour, count, and it will pay off in the future. Remember every Pro was once an amateur and every expert was once a beginner. Dream big, start now, make it happen.
Love,
Nadira
Outfitdetails:
Top: BBarbarella, my favorite boutique in Hilversum City (The Netherlands)
Jeans: Nastygal
Sandals: Zara
Hat: Don’t really remember!
Earrings: Gift from a lovely friend
- Published in Self-Discovery & Growth, Written Archives 2013-2018
That Power I Got
The past few months I’ve been pushing myself mentally more than I ever have before. Since we started with our t-shirt brand Wulterkens around February 2012, we’ve been so busy and focused on success and growth of the brand that we failed to acknowledge basic, but extremely important things, like our health. My partner and I both gained quite some weight due to our unhealthy lifestyle, with lots of stress, little sleep and no time for proper cooking.
And suddenly we just realized, that if we would jeopardize our health consistently, we will eventually not even be able to focus on the success and growth because we would be sick and fat. And of course, since we’re operating in the fashion industry, we do really want to look good!
So around mid-august, we started our Fitness journey with training and eating healthy unprocessed, freshly cooked veggies, lean meats and proteins, good carbs and fruit, 6 times a day. And lots of water! It took a lot of discipline, we really had to make the time, for the grocery shopping, cooking and training. We even set our alarm clock every 2 hours to make sure we don’t forget to eat.
For the first time, I started with Fitness, lifting heavy weights and kickboxing. It was all new to me, and in the beginning I thought fitness was really boring, until I finally got into it. I experienced the intensity at which you can push your mind and body and believe me, when training at THAT intensity, you don’t have a second to think of anything else, let alone be bored.
We really did our research on what to eat, and how to train and it’s working! We’re looking great, feeling great, much more energy and are much more productive. I really feel that my body is thankful for doing this.
I’m realizing while going through this journey that basically everything in life comes down to one thing: Mental Power. In the beginning it is so hard not to give in to sugar and bad carb cravings, but if you can manage your mind, eventually you train your mind into not needing any of it. I am so proud to have mastered this (It took me 2 months though, so be patient and stay strong!).
Another thing that has been happening a few times to both my partner and I has confirmed the power of the mind as well. While lifting weights, we mistakenly took a heavier weight than we thought it was. And while we could feel that it is very heavy, we had in our head ‘’this is 30 kg, I did this last week, so I should be able to do it now, I guess my body is just tired’’. But it actually was 50 kg. And still we were able to push ourselves to do the amount of reps that we wanted to do with 30 kg, while normally if we would be conscious of the weight being 50, we would probably not have been able to do half of the reps.
This means that it is extremely easy to trick and train your mind to be able to do amazing things. If your mind can conceive it, you can achieve it. While most people think with sports or lifting weights you have to be physically strong, it actually comes down to your mental strength. This mental power will allow you to break boundaries and thereby grow stronger both physically and mentally.
The power of my mind that I am getting to know during this fitness journey is astonishing. I am implementing this in every other aspect of my life, especially with work and it’s really making a lot of difference.
Henry Ford brought to life the saying ‘’Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right’’. This is so true. Say to yourself you can do it, and no matter what, you will, if you keep your focus and don’t give up. Say you can’t and you won’t. It’s as simple as that.
Lastly, I would like to share with you my personal affirmation:
‘’I am extremely powerful! Whatever I set my mind on having, I will have.
Whatever I decide to be, I will be. The evidence is all around me. I have taken the actions to create my current reality. And I have the power to change it into whatever I want it to be. With the choices I make, I am constantly fulfilling the vision I have for my life’’.
And so can you!
Love,
Nadira
P.S. This pictures were taken exactly a month ago. I am wearing my own beautiful Wulterkens Signature Studded Sweater. ZARA ripped jeans & heels from LolaShoetique.
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‘If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought” – Peace Pilgrim 
”Man, alone, has the power to transform his thoughts into physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true” – Napoleon Hill
”And so you touch this limit, something happens and you suddenly can go a little bit further. With your mind power, your determination, your instinct, and the experience as well, you can fly very high” – Ayrton Senna
”Man’s greatness lies in his power of thought” – Blaise Pascal
- Published in Self-Discovery & Growth, Written Archives 2013-2018
There’s always a first time for everything
It all started in February 2012, when my partner and I got the crazy idea to start our own clothing Brand. We didn’t have much of an idea what we were getting into. Now, 1,5 year later, I feel like we’re on the longest rollercoaster ride ever…but I love it.
It’s been so much of so many…This is my story, that I want to share with you. My journey as a millennial entrepreneur in the fashion business in the Netherlands.
It started with a crazy idea, it became a dream, and now we’re living it. We wanted to use our skills and expertise to create something different. Our entire idea of life has always been different.
With no offense to anyone, we don’t believe that the point of life is the way it is portrayed in big lines: Education, Work, Family, Pensions and if you’re lucky some Vacations and luxury in between.
There is so much more to life, and we want more, we want to add a significant value to this world. Really leave our mark and enhance the quality of many people’s lifes.
With Men’s fashion, we noticed in Europe that despite there being so much available, it all is pretty much the same, not much choice if you want to stand out a bit. It was all for what we call the grey mass. We want to create for those who Lead when others follow, those who want to set a statement with their clothing. Who really want to express their individuality and personality without saying a word.This was the source for the creations of Wulterkens. We just released our 3rd collection in June, available on www.wulterkensclothing.com
Our t-shirts have been spotted on many Dutch celebrities, international DJs, music artists, tv hosts, reality stars and even some upcoming artist in the USA. We are working hard to build Wulterkens up to an international imperium.
In this blog I want to share my passion with you and my journey. You can expect much more about me, fashion and beauty posts, updates on my Wulterkens journey, events, my views on topics I find interesting and also the many lessons that I learn along the way.
With this blog I would like to inspire, spread positivity, motivation and love. I think we all have the ability to be whomever we want to be in this life. It’s just a matter of determination, persistence, patience and the will to follow through. Never give up!
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Love,
Nadira
